Sometimes you need to move backwards in order to move forward

Starting at the beginning

I’ve been thinking about writing this post for a while, but I was waiting for the right time. When I first started as a website developer, I landed my first job, which I expected to be a junior role. It was at a junior salary, but they were looking for someone a mid to senior developer.

This certainly didn’t come across in their job ad, and during my interview, I must have come across as a stronger developer than I was. However, they knew I came out of college and worked as a cashier, and they knew this was my first rodeo as a professional developer. Long story short, I lasted three weeks and struggled the whole time. During the third week, they could see I was working and had to let me go. It was absolutely heartbreaking, but I was able to go back to my old job as a cashier.

I turned up to my old job and explained to my manager that it didn’t work out. I asked if I could come back, and he was more than happy to employ me once again. After around six months, I tried again at another company, where I could then move forward. Since then, I have been working as a developer, and I’ve now been in the game for around eight years.

A more recent example of going backwards

Something similar also happened recently. I left a position for a new one because I felt like I needed a change. My employer at the time was sad to see me go, but they said they would love to have me back in the future. I then began my new position, and after a couple of months, I decided it wasn’t for me. I left and started looking elsewhere. On the off chance, I could go back to my old job. I messaged my previous manager.

After some back and forth and rearranging my rate, they were happy to have me back. I’m now working at my previous position and so glad to be back. The new job just wasn’t for me, and it’s great that the door remained open. For now, I’m happy to stay for a longer time, and who knows what might happen in the future?

Don’t be afraid to move backwards

If you’re in a similar boat where you find your current job isn’t for you. Maybe you can look back at a previous employer and ask if they will have you back. You never know what might happen, and it’s not shameful to go back to a workplace prior, especially if you made a special connection and a few friends.

Working out with sore muscles

When you’re working out, it’s obvious you will get sore muscles. Your muscles are generally more sore when you take a big break or you have never worked out before. It’s also easy to stop working out at the first sign of sore muscles. I’ve been guilty of doing this in the past, and I was close to not working out today.

Usually, you get what’s called delayed onset muscle soreness aka DOMS. This usually happens a day or two after a workout, and it’s when they are at the sorest point. My workout on Monday caused me to have DOMS which I really felt today.

I woke up and had second thoughts in going because of my soreness. However, I decided I will go to CrossFit, and I will force my muscle to work. Embracing the soreness can actually help create less soreness. While deciding not to work out due to sore muscles can actually make it worse. When I turned up to my workout, my coach said something similar. It is best to embrace as long as your body is able to complete full range of motion. If your muscle can’t complete the full range, then it’s definitely best to rest until you can.

People say the best form of recovery is rest. While this is true, it can also be false. You need to listen to your body, and ensure you don’t push it too hard. Especially if you’re trying to build a foundation for muscle growth and cardio build up. Sometimes your mind wants to rest more than your body, and when that happens, you need to push your mind. Push it and make sure it takes you to that workout so you can become a stronger person.

Being added to PHPNews

It’s kind of funny because when I started this blog, I was writing PHP tutorials. This is because I am a PHP developer. If there was something I was stuck on and I had to piece information together, I would bundle it up and turn it into a blog post. This was mainly so if I had the same issue again, I could go back and read what I wrote.

It was also nice to have other people read and find those posts useful. However, things changed, and I wanted to blog about more than just PHP. During my time of writing, my blog posts were added to PHPNews and were relevant. However, they are no longer relevant and I’m surprised to see my posts still appearing on the site. It is also nice to see them on there, and it does help with SEO. 😉

PHPNews has come a long way from what it was, and I do check in to see what other people are posting. It also looks like I’m the only irrelevant blogger on that site which does make me laugh.

Picture of me deadlifting a 65kg barbell. Going into a power-clean.

Things are opening up here in the UK

From tomorrow, we’ll be able to go back to the gym. Since the beginning of this lockdown, I haven’t been able to do many workouts. People say it’s easier to workout from home but to me it isn’t the same. My wife can see that I begin to withdraw from myself and become more depressed when I don’t go to CrossFit. To some, this may seem sad but it’s what I love doing. When you love that thing so much, and someone takes it away from you, then you would feel sad.

I love being coached and working out with a group of people. That’s where I thrive, and have accepted this reality. Once I get back into CrossFit tomorrow, my life will be able to begin a new. I want to keep pushing myself but I have to remember that I haven’t worked out for over three months. My body won’t be the same as it was, and I need to prepare for that.

If you have managed to get back to the gym or a more normal routine, how has that been for you? I would love to know in the comments. ☺️

Selling merchandise on spreadshirt

I’ve been selling my “Fitness for mental health” Merch on spreadshirt for a while now, and I’ve decided to add more variety. I’m currently testing and seeing how my sales go before I make a big commitment. So far, I have a few designs up, and I’d love it if my readers could check them out.

Ten percent of profits from the “fitness for mental health” merchandise will go to Mind charity. They’re a great mental health charity who has helped me in the past. Any other merchandise is there purely for myself.

Forcing yourself to write

I’ve read a couple of blog posts recently that try to do away with the motivation and inspiration. The premise is that you don’t need motivation or inspiration to write. You need to be organised and persistent. Persistence can’t work on motivation alone. If it were the case, then everyone would be posting irregularly.

I used to use motivation alone, and it led to sporadic posts. One week, I would be posting every day, then the next, my motivation would dwindle and there would be zero posts. Today, I don’t feel motivated, and yesterday, I didn’t either. Some days you just have to sit down and force yourself to write.

I want to get into the habit of writing and scheduling multiple posts in a day in case there is a day when I don’t write a single thing. Today, I didn’t know what to write about. The same thing happened yesterday. It wasn’t until I actually sat down with the iPad on my lap where I began to write.

This is because I felt like I had to write something. Anything. I’ve made a promise to myself that I will complete the Personal Challenge: 100 Posts in 100 Days.

To be or not to be found

A lot of people choose to be found. This can be on social networks, their own website or networking in groups. So many people try so hard to be found and noticed. People rush to the next social networking website hoping it’s the “next big thing” and they can work it and gain a big following.

Personally, I’m trying to find my network of people using Twitter. I’m also trying to get my blog up in the search ranks so my posts and website can get noticed by more people. I’ve had this strange pull by audio social networks such as Clubhouse and Twitter Spaces. That’s where I feel I’ve finally found my people.

What if you don’t want to be found?

Many people never speak about not wanting to be found. Because you’ll never hear from the people that don’t want to be found. Which is obvious when you think about it. They use social networks and keep it private. You’ll only be able to connect with them if you have a genuine in-person connection.

They won’t be found by social networks because they want to remain hidden. In order to follow them, you’ll send them a request, and they’ll approve/deny that request.

For them, privacy is very important. Most of the time, they haven’t got anything to hide. They just want to stay private and keep their personal life personal. Many of us parade around and make so much of our personal’s lives public. Most of us are picky or more particular on what we share while others will share everything. From what they had for breakfast to their sleeping patterns.

The most important thing about being or not being found

The most important thing is that all of these are okay. We should do what we feel is comfortable. While also not being negative about what other’s share. It’s a completely personal preference, and that’s okay.

Easter bank holiday

This Easter bank holiday has been a bit of a quiet one. It always throws many of us off because we have both Friday, and Monday off which is a rarity. We tend to panic because we think we have to go back to work. We double check what we’re supposed to do, and then some of us go back to bed. While others will get up because it’s a thing of habit.

Most of the day is spent wondering what we should be doing. Especially if one doesn’t have anything planned. We’re creatures of habit, and often when things change, we either panic or feel lost. Often, I feel lost, and I feel guilty when I’m not staying busy. However, this bank holiday weekend was different. I stayed calm, and didn’t feel guilty about not staying busy. I played some games, ate some vegan takeaway, and read more of my book.

My wife also had a similar experience. She is often keeping herself busy with work and her side-hustle. However, her side-hustle has been quiet which has allowed her to give herself some much needed “me” time. I’m proud of her, and I’m glad she was able to take some time off without feeling guilty.

Bank holiday weekends are great for a little reset and “me” time. A double bank holiday can work absolute wonders for the mind, body and soul. We both needed this, and I hope everyone else enjoying this bank holiday feels similar.

A war on ants

As the days get warmer, and we stop fighting seasonal affective disorder (SAD). There’s a new battle that begins, and it’s not a battle with our own selves or emotions but a battle with nature. Ants.

Ants are lovely and helpful insect except when they’re taking over your kitchen and scuttle around the floors and sides. My wife and I have tried everything from putting powder and traps outside to making the kitchen spotless. So far, none of this works, and we’re not sure how or if we won it this time last year.

We keep going through the same motions of pulling out the cooker and washing machine to clean up anything that fell down. We also make sure there are no filthy dishes left on the side or food in our kitchen food caddy. However, they still want to come in and raid our kitchen.

The Roman Empire

Casey Neistat covers this beautifully in his YouTube video titled “A war on ants”. (Yes, I did still his title. Please don’t sue me! 🙈)

Basically, he says that no matter how many you kill and how often you think you’ve won the battle, you haven’t. They’ll keep coming back for more, and you are literally fighting a losing battle. He brings out a book on Rome to (I assume) find out how they were beaten so he could use the same techniques to beat the ants in his home.

His situation is a lot worse than mine. However, the process is very similar. Pin down the ant’s nest, cover it in powder and hope it kills all of them. If it doesn’t, then that probably wasn’t the nest, or there’s another nest elsewhere, and no, they have bred out of control.

Last year, we also had the issue of them coming into the front room from outside. I remember working from home and feeling them walking on my feet and legs. I would look down and see these black insects crawling all over me. I’d brush them off, look around to see where they’re coming from and not being able to figure it out. They were always so dispersed that I didn’t know where they came from. I poured some powder on the outside wall near the place I sit. Did it work? Did it heck!

False sense of security

You think you’ve won the battle as they start to drop down in numbers, but you definitely haven’t won the war. They go back to their nest and hibernate until it gets warm again. This time next year, we’ll be going through the same motion, and there’s nothing we can do about it.

Lay more traps, get more ant dust, and pray to whoever you believe they’ll disappear soon. 🙏

Goodbye March, Hello sweet April 2021

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What happened in March?

Tiff and I started our “March for March” pretty strong, but we lost motivation after a couple of unfortunate weeks. Not a lot happened after that, if I’m honest. I have been hard at work with blog posts, started 100 posts in 100 days challenge, and working hard on my weekly newsletter.

What I’m looking forward to

The days are starting to get lighter. We’ve now entered British Summer Time (GMT+1), and things are looking more positive. Lockdown is easing, and we’ll soon be able to visit friends, families and other people. We can now visit 5 other people outside, which is a great start.

I look forward to seeing my mum and going out to restaurants. The weather is getting better, and the days are warmer. The outset is starting to look much more positive, and I can’t wait to see what April holds.

Last months blog posts

What’s in store for April

We don’t have any plans for April, maybe as things start easing, we can start to make plans.

What are your plans for this month? Have you got anything you’re really excited about? Let me know in the comments below. 🔽